Me and my ex..

[monasiers]

Me and my ex just recently started talking to each other after our breakup. The reason why we broke up was because i didnt trust her and i had every reason not to trust her. Now that we are back talking to each other i dont know how i should fee and i also dont want to rush into things unless i really know she is about me. i found myself nervous to talk to her about theses things. What is a good way to go along with it how would i know for sure of she wants me in the same way that i want her?

[Valerie1979]

gotta talk about it
losing trust is a BIG deal....
Often when we have a breakup it's hard to remember WHY you broke up once you "re-connect" -- make sure those issues that are underlying are addressed and resolved..... otherwise you will waste more time and still not be happy in the relationship

[swv]

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Her actions will speak louder than her words. Just give it a chance , if that is what makes the two of you happy, and hopefully your relationship can be better than ever! Good luck!

[lynnc35]

You have to be honest, communication is the most important, if you start off on the wrong foot, that is usually where you will end up. Explain your feelings to her, and let her know you have to be honest with each other from now on.

[Kiki1992]

Sounds like you never broke up with her. You wanted her back, and now that she wants to come back, you're scared the same thing may happen again. Seems like you love her. She can break your heart easily. I don't know. That's tough, but you need to think about it and decide.

[mommagoes]

while trust and communication is important, i think what you're missing is that she is your ex for a reason. its kind of like if you burn your hand on the stove. you're not going to go back and put your hand on the hot stove again, are you? no, because that was a mistake and you have learned your lesson

[monasiers]

Your right i do love her alot.. we broke up in november and havent talked since january. i am scared to be with her again and i dont want the same mistakes to happen again.. like i said i want to be sure i want her to show me. thank you all for the feed back

[britnav25]

Ya know, women all the time try be the victim, but it's not always the case. In this case, you were really hurt. If she really is about you, she can wait till your ready to take the next step. TAKE YOUR TIME. I can not say this enough. The more time you take, the more the truth will reveal itself. Avoid diving head first into the situation. Just be aware about past actions because history has a way of repeating itself. Actions speak more than words. Good luck to you.