Has anyone boyfriend ever judged you on your appearance????

[garcia123]

 :-[Hi my name is Lupe and i am sad to say that my current boyfriend had the nerve to judge me on my appearance. He asked me that if i had ever tried to lose weight...for me this was such an insult I didnt even know what to say....what do you say that to someone who you believe likes you?

[mrisha]

Obviously he doesn't like you that much because he is ready to change you.  He is only seeing you from the outside (physical) not what's inside you and your heart.  He will never give you all of him because you are not a size 2 and not perfect.  Why don't you ask him to change something about himself and listen to the response and see if he agrees and willing to change to please you.  You have some thinking to do before you continue your relationship.  Either he is a man or a boy.  Good luck.

[thetotalfool]

Sometimes guys hit on me, and just by talking to them I know they are only interested in me because they think I'm attractive, and nothing else.  I don't want to have anything to do with superficial guys.  I'd rather be alone than with somebody like that.

[Annella]

Kick him to the curb.  You want someone to like/love you for you.....the whole package.

[Valerie1979]

when my husband and I were dating he acknowledged that he is a very vain person
he doesn't really like how I look and thought maybe I should have "some work done"

needless to say --- I married him anyways and I didn't have any work done.
i do always wonder if he truly likes looking at me, I don't feel that he is physically attracted to me sometimes, but i know he loves me.  He loves the important things...  

I don't know -- but you decide what you need and want.   Don't lose that sense of "sexy" and "beauty" that you feel for yourself.... OH SO IMPORTANT long term!

[lilblondiemjd]

Okay, I so need to chime in on this!!!

I have recently lost over 50 pounds. All of my life I was bigger. My highest weight was 250+ pounds. Of COURSE I had men who would make comments about my weight, not just men, people in general...And I always would let it get to me. We're human, things like that hurt! But THEN as I got older, I realized that I was taking in all of the NEGATIVE and not paying attention to as much positive reinforcement people have given me! Think about it, there has to be TONS of people in your life who have told you how beautiful you are. I see your picture you're pretty! But then one comment from one man hurts like a dagger since he means a lot to you...Even if he DIDN'T mean a lot, it would hurt since it's rejection. Sometimes it is sooo easy to lose track and brush off nice comments about ourselves and only focus on the negative. I am telling you right now, there are TONS of men who prefer women with weight on their bodies. Actually...I've found MORE men who appreciate curvy women. Before I realized this, I would put myself on crazy diets and just gain MORE weight, it never worked! It wasn't until I realized I'm AWESOME the way I am that I started losing weight, because I was doing it for ME, and not just to "look good" but to feel good. Weight does not determine anything. It is something uncreative people point out because they want to belittle you and can't think of any better way to do it.

For every man who INSULTS you because of your curves, there are TEN men who would embrace you for the wonderful voluptuous woman you are! So dump his *bleep* and find someone better because GIRL YOU ARE TOO PRETTY for his *bleep*! Doing so will give you the confidence boost to a journey of loving yourself. I know it sounds corny but I've lived it so I know how you feel!

I fluctuate from around 180-205, I am not ashamed to say so, and it is because I know I look good and my fiance does as well! You just need to find a man that finds you sexy regardless. Different men prefer different things! I love being a sexy size 13, my fiance loves it, and it took me awhile to love myself, and once you get to this point, small comments from arrogant people only make you STRONGER!