Why do women cheat?

[tzs]

because they are missing something in their current relationship....
low self esteem/high self esteem......
Sex is a way of self medicating or compensating for another problem...
They have OCD sexually.......
They like the thrill of being sneaky and scandilous...
they are in denial........
It's against their beliefs and they have to have it (ie sex before marriage),which is VERY NORMAL!!!!!!!!!
They are seeking out a better mate........
Expectations way too steep......
Leading 2 different lives......
Have their cake, and eat it too.......
He/she wants to have children and she/he doesn't....
lack of the big picture.....
Theres more for both men and women........

They are, essentially Human Beings of all types........
If you are denied something in life, something that you need instinctually to live, and the opportunity arises, sometimes you will do
crazy things to get it, and people get hurt along the way.......And thats the saddest part of all.....Lack of Empathy..........

[jordandog]

I've noticed people cheat to get into relationships, not get into relationships to cheat.

True, True!

And usually, not always, they will cheat again to get out of the one they cheated to get into. Human nature dictates that dishonesty of any type is rarely a 'one time' thing. I would say that 99.9% of all couples I have known or know that cheated in order to be together, wind up cheating on each other. My father always told me "If you date a man who is cheating on his wife/girlfriend, DO NOT come crying to me when he does it to you." The same would apply to women if he was talking to my brothers.
(Before anyone decides to jump me and cry foul, please note I did use "usually, not always, and rarely" in my statement. )

[sgluckadoo]

for excitement...

[rbeal2324]

I am not sure why ,   but I dont buy into all the reasons i have heard from people  (men and women )who do cheat.
There is no good reason , no way to justify it.  That is my opinion.

[shernajwine]

i learned a lot from a seminar i attended called Love and Respect.

i learned that what a man needs is respect (even when he doesn't deserve it) and if he feels disrespected enough after awhile he cheats. not because he doesn't love his partner but because something very critical is missing in the relationship. a man HAS to feel respected, he has to know that he is appreciated for his hard work and made to feel like man. to emasculate a man is to kill his spirit.

a woman however (although she needs respect also) needs to feel loved. even if she isn't acting very lovable. she needs to felt loved for exactly who she is. after feeling unloved long enough she will cheat...not because she doesn't love her partner but because something critical is missing.

it takes a lot of work to make a relationship work. men hear and see through blue eyes and blue ears...women hear and see through pink. neither is wrong, just different.

ex:
a man looks through his closet and says....i have nothing to wear-he really means he has nothing clean!
a woman looks through her closet and says...i have nothing to wear-she really means its time to go shopping!

men and women react so differently that you really have to understand your partner! women RESPECT YOUR MEN and he will never have reason to look away! men LOVE your women and they will be completely devoted!!

[tantricia44]

Most women are verbal creatures. When communication b/w spouses stop that's when women/men stray. Some feel that their spouse must be cheating on them because they don't it anymore. He's always tired when he gets home etc. Maybe in the relationship the man was not supportive & try to hold her back in her career.  I for one would never do this, if I was feeling that the relationship was going sour I would confront him & lay it out. Cheating on him before talking out the issue or b/f the divorce, I think is really sleazy & low class. 
Bottom line is that both should respect each other and respect is Earned not because you have to give it to him or her just to keep them from cheating. I don't call that respect, I call that a one sided relationship! You know the signal that you won't cheat, it's when, where ever you are, however far way, you feel that special person in the back of your mind. No amount of temptation will break that trust.

[shernajwine]

Most women are verbal creatures. When communication b/w spouses stop that's when women/men stray. Some feel that their spouse must be cheating on them because they don't it anymore. He's always tired when he gets home etc. Maybe in the relationship the man was not supportive & try to hold her back in her career.  I for one would never do this, if I was feeling that the relationship was going sour I would confront him & lay it out. Cheating on him before talking out the issue or b/f the divorce, I think is really sleazy & low class. 
Bottom line is that both should respect each other and respect is Earned not because you have to give it to him or her just to keep them from cheating. I don't call that respect, I call that a one sided relationship! You know the signal that you won't cheat, it's when, where ever you are, however far way, you feel that special person in the back of your mind. No amount of temptation will break that trust.

i disagree, both my husband and i have cheated at one point and it's only by applying the lessons learned at this seminar that our relationship was repaired and now it's stronger than it's ever been! this seminar has proved to save thousands of marriages! so i don't think i'm giving bad advice with a proven method of saving a marriage, even marriages on the brink of a divorce.

and when i cheated, that special person WAS in the back of mind and temptation DID break that trust. it's not as simple as all that. if that were the case then NO ONE would ever cheat. it has nothing to do with how SPECIAL someone is to you or how much you love them. i'm proof of that.

additionally, it's not one sided. a man is asking for unconditional respect and a woman is asking for unconditional love. that's a two way street and it takes WORK. if it was a simple matter of butterflies and fireworks every time we think of each other everyone would be divorced before the first year of marriage was over.

[kimber62372]

i will cheat only if i need to get back at my girl but if she is been a good little lady i will be a loyal gentleman to her 

Now do you truly think that is right to do? You should be a gentleman regardless. If she is bad then get rid of her...why cheat? It defeats the purpose and will only cause caios in your life!

I believe women cheat only because they are not happy in the relationship or they were mistreated! They don't do it for revenge like men do! And men do it just because they think with their 'other' head & do not think of the consequenses! 

[ancmetro]

           It is a good question...for which I have no answers!