Problems

[MYKRLuciano]

My step daughter is having a baby. Her mom is having a baby shower my step daughter wants me to go with her father. But me and her mom had problems. But for my step daughter I will do anything but this is killing me dont know what to do.

[tantricia44]

My step daughter is having a baby. Her mom is having a baby shower my step daughter wants me to go with her father. But me and her mom had problems. But for my step daughter I will do anything but this is killing me dont know what to do.

Go to your Step daughters baby shower. I know you'd feel uneasy with the mom but it would make your step daughter happy & you can't do a do over if you did miss it. Right?  Go with a neutral zone mind, don't expect something will happen, don't make your self crazy wondering what the mom will do to get at you.
Stay clear of her, mingle with your step daughter & her friends. Redirect anything negative coming from the mom. Your best revenge is to have a great time whether her mom is there or not. Remember this: NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT! Stop consenting to her mom & take back your POWER! Hope this helps you out!

[Mascitelli]

I would have to agree with MYKRLuciano. If you step daughter wants you at her baby shower with her father then go. Make it clear to the mom that you are not there for any conflic and you are there for you step daughter. I may not know your stepdaughter personally, but she seem to be a smart cookie. In other words if you haven't told your stepdaughter or she dosen't know how you feel about her mom talk to her about it. If she does I'm willing to bet if her mom does anything to make you  want to leave or cause any problems between the two of you she will or may disowned her mom. Ruining a speacal day is very unforgiving so to speak and her mom may not see her grand baby. All I'm saying if it would make you stepdaughter happy if you show up then go. This is useally once in a life time event once you miss it it is gone for good.

[scollontrade]

Great advice. Also, don't forget that you want to be there for the baby too. Keep the lines of communication open at all costs. Smile and make nice. Do something nice for the person you have problems with. I will say a prayer for your situation. 

[MYKRLuciano]

Thank you everyone for that Advice. And yes my step daughter knows about everything between her mom and I. Her mom use her as bait to talk to her father. But he dont talk to unless if its about my step daughter. At might fact her mom took her to my house with an excuse to drop her off and started to hit my husband. My husband step back and me and her got into it she and neice try to fight. My daughter saw everything I felt bad she was only 8 years old. But eventhough her mom puts bad things on her head she always protect me rather her real mom she wanted me to call the police on her mom. I told her its between me and her mom not her. Her mom tells her I dont love her that I love my daughter only. But not true I love all my children equally. She its my first daughter and always will be.

[sdenimandlace1]

Over the years I have gone to lots of things with my kids even my ex in-laws house for different events. I always speak and be nice and find some of the other grand kids to hang out with, it takes work but it is always worth the time.

[kashkow]

I would honor your step daughter's request and just try to keep contact with her mother to a minimum.

[Ttown32]

I lost my job and my cable was turned off,so i have to go 2 weeks without my sports.But now im working again and my cable is back on.

[josette72882]

I think you need to go if she wants you there it is her day. put all other issues aside and go.