Disappointed in my Mother

[sgluckadoo]

My daughter had a baby 6 months ago and my mother doesn't have anything to do with the baby because he is bi-racial.  This has hurt me and my daughter more than she will ever know.  The first question she asked me when I called and told her the baby had been born was "Is he that color?".  She claims to be a Christian, but this is not a very Christian attitude.

Love your baby twice as much to make up for her not being there and remember how it feels for your mother to abandon you and never do it to your child.

[aggie49]

i have to say i know it hurts that your mom does not want to be a part of your grand daughters life but maybe someday she will come around and realize she is the one that is missing out i have always say a child is gift from god and as long as you surroundyour child and hers with love and honor thats what she will grow up with all the love you can give do not worry about your mom it is her loss

[Penwoir]

Without a doubt, that is a real shame. I agree with some earlier comments about the older generation not always being in the modern world. The world has gotten smaller since people can so readily fly nowadays and we have to accept that interracial marriages are only going to become more frequent. I don't see color or race, I see friendship and human companionship. I don't care who my sons marry, I just want them to be happy. If your mother cared about you so much, she would care about what it is important to you - and that is your daughter and her child.

[ancmetro]

  Some people are very prejudicial in reference to race. In some countries, some take race very seriously...while in other countries, different races are more tolerated.

[batmobile]

My daughter had a baby 6 months ago and my mother doesn't have anything to do with the baby because he is bi-racial.  This has hurt me and my daughter more than she will ever know.  The first question she asked me when I called and told her the baby had been born was "Is he that color?".  She claims to be a Christian, but this is not a very Christian attitude.

wow! that is horrible... remind her that Jesus had to deal with prejudice being a jew!  and pharisees judged others.

[JediJohnnie]

That's very sad. I can only hope that if she is indeed a Christian, God will move her at some point. Keep praying!

[countrygirl12]

My daughter had a baby 6 months ago and my mother doesn't have anything to do with the baby because he is bi-racial.  This has hurt me and my daughter more than she will ever know.  The first question she asked me when I called and told her the baby had been born was "Is he that color?".  She claims to be a Christian, but this is not a very Christian attitude.

That is sad.  Will she talk to you if you try to discuss it with her?  Could you explain to her how bad you and your daughter have been hurt?  I am curious as to if your daughter is with the father of the baby.

catherinedwhite- that is a really good idea.

[6265AT99]

I'm sorry for your family problems but, sometimes you just can't change a persons' mind no matter how much you try.  Maybe someday, with the help of God, she will come around and realize she has missed out on some of the most important days of her life.

[aflyingmonkey]

I believe it is common in that generation...  both ways.
That was the time period of Civil Rights, protests & riots, & segregation which they grew up in ...  I lived through the riots in Los Angeles, the Rodney King Can't we all get along ones, & it was a scary ordeal.   I can't image living through a whole country in such turmoil and racial upset, & the news probably broadcast in 24/7.     

 I would always stay positive with her about the baby, & when she mentions negativity, just ignore her & continue your positivity at all costs.  Don't give in to defending, or acknowledge her negativity; when she sees that her opinion of the situation doesn't matter to you, & her negativity won't change your mind, perhaps she'll stop.    Some people just say stuff for attention, they want it to be all about them, even if it is negative... they'll continue to rant because they want a reaction.  Don't give it to them.   She brings it up, get off the phone.  Stay positive.    Hopefully when she sees she no longer has power, she'll come around.   Just like what the Museum of Tolerance teaches, you don't have to be accepting of everything, just tolerant & respectful of others... your mother may not like it, but she needs to be tolerant & respectful. 

 Good Luck with your mother & Congratulations on your granddaughter.

[plennis]

I would send her photos and updates on the baby and myself. I would act as if nothing was wrong between us.  I would not acknowledge her lack of response.  I will pray that she will see what a gift he is before it is to late for her.