dinner with the in laws

[jmc1070]

with the holidays, I have to face the dreaded dinner with the in laws. my mother in law is just like Marie from everyone loves Raymond....And I am Debra.... each year I find it a little bit harder to bite my tongue and play nice. I would skip it, but I'm running out of excuses not to attend. Hubby is no help, he won't stand up to his mother, as she knows everything...... grrr, ugh! Maybe it will snow a lot tonight and save me the trip...I can only hope!

[Nancy5]

Just try to enjoy your day.  It could be worst at least you guys don't hate each other.  Smile, and try to get through it, I thank God my Italian mother in-law was great and I loved her like a second mom.  Good luck!

[potluck6]

I had a nice mother inlaw guess I'm lucky you can always go the bathroom a lot nobody will bother you there right.

[ilovepatrick]

don't complain my inlaw hate me so bad they never include me in anything. i had to call them when i thought my husband was sick and missing just to find out that he told them i not lived with him for the last four years

[BATISTAGIRL663]

so how did it go with the in laws ?? pleasant I hope--hope everyone had a very merry Christmas and a wonderful new year!!

[jmc1070]

it went okay...but I do not have much tongue left...

[sak4kat]

Sounds like you really had to turn your cheek throughout the visit.  At least you have a year of sanity in regard to this matter... to recoup, rehash and rethink how to go about it next year.  Personally, I wouldn't put any time into it... I think it would drain my emotions and cause anxiety... you could do I what I did when I worked in retail and didn't want to "deal" with people when I wasn't on the clock.  Put some ear buds in and crank up some tunes.

[zreeds]

I guess I am lucky, never been married. but if you only see them once a year I would deal with otherwise become just as a pain to her as she is to you.

[msmoneybags48]

I was with my ex and had to go and represent both of us at the in-laws' house.  The fact is, I made an attempt of trying and my in-laws were like being in a whirlpool.  My ex had a niece that I could not stand because she would make potshots at me.  When his grandmother passed, she made me go off at the repass.  I didn't want to sit beside her; she took offense, so I told her she don't want to take it too far and told my ex.  He got stabbed and went into the hospital.  She came by my apartment and I told her that I didn't appreciate her thinking she had the right to speak to me any kind of way.  She finally left.  My ex, his son, his girlfriend, my daughter and me went to his aunt and she got upset because the girlfriend and I drank a glass of wine.  My ex got mad and we left.  So that is my experience with in-laws.  If you don't want to go through the drama, stay at home.

[king4cash]

Here is some advice...

Don't talk about your personal life. After you've made it through the initial pleasantries, you'll need something to discuss for the next three or four hours.

Avoid any subject (work, mortgage payments, your son's suspension from private school) that might reflect badly on your spouse in the eyes of your father or mother, or, for that matter, anyone they might happen to talk to over the next six months.

Good luck...

[skrogman]

Wow, can I empathize with that!  I remember when I was married and we went to Florida to spend Christmas with my ex-mother-in-law.  Since I am a cigarette smoker, I walked outside whenever I wanted to smoke as a courtesy.  Well, only to find out that she yelled at him because I went outside to smoke in Florida at 70 degrees in a pair of shorts and a tee shirt.  Silently, all I could do was think about my family at home having a 2 degree white Christmas and laugh.  But, that's the way it goes.

[lharris32]

you can nicely put your foot down and find some common ground

[skinnygwenny]

I do not mind having dinner with my in-laws. But I prefer to have dinner with my immediate family. This justb seems more traditional to me.