Adversary at work?

[bobes915]

Have you ever had someone at your work who was incredibly adversarial towards you?  How did you handle the situation or attempt to deal with it?  I am especially interested if you adversary demonstrated sociopathic tendencies. 

[Falconer02]

I would recommend just avoiding them. If you're forced to work with them, just be nice and if they're being adversarial, kindly ask them "Not to pry, but is something wrong?" If they do have dangerous sociopathic tendancies, I highly recommend talking to your boss or HR about it. If it is your boss, I recommend leaving the job unless you have an HR department.

[levettepough]

I would recommend just avoiding them. If you're forced to work with them, just be nice and if they're being adversarial, kindly ask them "Not to pry, but is something wrong?" If they do have dangerous sociopathic tendancies, I highly recommend talking to your boss or HR about it. If it is your boss, I recommend leaving the job unless you have an HR department.

I just say avoid also. There will be adversaries no matter you go,so you have to learn how to deal with them.

[dauna]

Some of the people I get along with best are the ones I never see.

[march1971]

Some of the people I get along with best are the ones I never see.

Jesus said in the Sermon on the Mount that you should love those that hate you, pray for those that despitefully use you, and when somebody slaps you on one cheek, offer them the other.

[minkatrozic]

I like this. Nice idea but in reality very hard to achieve. We can only strive to follow this golden rule of life but it is becoming very hard. We are just humans with all flows that go with it.

[skrogman]

I had a situation like that on a job once.  I had a lady who obviously hated working with me only because she had been at the particular store longer than me, (before I was ever hired there) but I had years more retail experience than her and I was hired straight in being told that I would work for a ninety day probationary period then would be promoted to Asst Mgr.  I understood that she had more time in the store than me, and I tried to work with her professionally, whether it be stocking the truck to the shelves or relieving her for breaks or whatever.  I gave it my best, but she had that grudge because of the position I was hired for. 

I mean, really, she ran to the manager one time to make sure she reported that my register was 4 cents off...4 cents!

But, when the time came at the end of the ninety day probation, she transferred to another local branch of the store.  So, it worked out.  I had the position that I was promised and I would have felt bad if she would have quit her job because of me. 

As far as I can think, that is the only true feeling of dislike I have ever felt on a job.

[BMaston12]

I would recommend just avoiding them. If you're forced to work with them, just be nice and if they're being adversarial, kindly ask them "Not to pry, but is something wrong?" If they do have dangerous sociopathic tendancies, I highly recommend talking to your boss or HR about it. If it is your boss, I recommend leaving the job unless you have an HR department.

I have found from experience that if you give them enough rope, tehy will hang themselves. Always document your activities, that is use paper trail to prove your work contacts. Use notes to all group meetings and cc everyone in the group of your progress report, or at least have a time stamp to prove your side of the story. Paper has more substance than "he said,she said".You have to protect Your Own A*** because no one else will!
BMaston12

[levettepough]

I had a situation like that on a job once.  I had a lady who obviously hated working with me only because she had been at the particular store longer than me, (before I was ever hired there) but I had years more retail experience than her and I was hired straight in being told that I would work for a ninety day probationary period then would be promoted to Asst Mgr.  I understood that she had more time in the store than me, and I tried to work with her professionally, whether it be stocking the truck to the shelves or relieving her for breaks or whatever.  I gave it my best, but she had that grudge because of the position I was hired for. 

I mean, really, she ran to the manager one time to make sure she reported that my register was 4 cents off...4 cents!

But, when the time came at the end of the ninety day probation, she transferred to another local branch of the store.  So, it worked out.  I had the position that I was promised and I would have felt bad if she would have quit her job because of me. 

As far as I can think, that is the only true feeling of dislike I have ever felt on a job.

The devil is busy and he is everywhere so you have to be prepared at all times

[tzs]

All you have to do is let their own *bleep* write a check they can't cash.  It's not worth loosing your job over someone's stupidity! That's been my experience and usually it works itself out that way.

[sammywantsya]

gotta be strong with man.. sucks i know but think it like this is it worth it to get laid off cuz of it??

[mrisha]

In all the years that I worked, I never ran into that problem.  People are going to be human and no matter what you say, the grudge is going to be there and just remember the Devil is always working but you have to say the Devil is a lie.

[samrhett2]

I never had anyone that I worked closely with that seemed that way, although working in bigger companies there were people that seemed mean to me for no reason other than it seemed they just didn't like me.  Thankfully they have always been people that I didn't have to see or deal with every day.

I don't know what makes people like that.  My sister had a job that she worked at for a year and finally quit.  No just because of a girl that seemed to hate her, but it contributed to her decision.  In my opinion is has to be a jealousy problem or they feel threatened.

I agree to ignore them if you can.  If you can't, I would probably try to be super sweet in an attempt to try to irk them even more.  I live to try to "get to" people in a way that they could never report your for.  I mean, they would probably know that you were faking it, but what are they going to do?  Complain that your are being too nice?

I also agree that you should keep notes and document their actions toward you because people like that are sneaky and will take any opportunity to make you look bad and make themselves look good, even if they have to falsify the details.