Two gay people are ending their marriage

[carty1]

I just hear that two gay people are ending their marriage, if they have kids which parent should they live with?

[bigedshult]

i DON'T KNOW BUT THE KID WOULD BETTER OFF IN THE WARD OF THE STATE THAN WITH EATHER ONE OF THEM.

[premar16]

I think it depends on which parent is the primary care giver like they do with straight couples.I know a couple who got divorced and since the dad was the primary caregiver he got the kids.Also if there old enough to decide ask them.Also ask a person who is adopted I find the above comment hurtful,ignorant,and plain wrong.Unless you are willing to be a ward of the state I dont think you should talk.Gay people can make wonderful parents.Mine did.Its better to have a caring parent gay or straight than none at alllllll .Straight people parenting is varied and the fact that they are screwing someone of the opposite sex doesnt automatically make them perfect parents..My bio parents were straight and beat me and molested my siblings.Who you sleep with should never determine your parenting skills.If there caring and supportive than there good parents no matter who they lay down with at night. sorry carty1 for getting off subject bigoted people get on my nerves.My answer who ever is the primary care person should be the person they live with or they can share custody it can be done I friend whose parents were gay and they did it

[lannl]

Custody battles are the most painful horrific thing. I think they should share responsibility. And not try to keep one from the other.

[BizELady]

Whichever one was the primary caregiver

[ULuvCeCe]

Custody battles are the most painful horrific thing. I think they should share responsibility. And not try to keep one from the other.

I agree with the above. My sons father and I are currently separated, we both provide for the house financially but ultimately it is recognized that I am the primary caregiver. With that said, if he wants to see our son 50/50 that is fine by me, children need both their parents regardless of if their parents are male/female, female/female or male/male

[Tresbn00]

I think that the decision should be left up to the courts to decide just as it would be in a heterosexual marriage.  Typically the parent that can offer better benefit (insurance, mental stability, longevity at job,time at home, financial backing, family social network, etc.) is the one that ends up with the largest portion of time with the child.  Visitation should be allowed to the parent that isn't the primary so that the child isn't deprived of the relationship that was initially set up. So many other factors enter into this equation but the court usually places a priority on the ones that I have mentioned.