HELP! How do you show your husband you appreciate him?

[tigerlilly01]

I love  my hubby so much but he thinks that I don't appreciate him but I DO I DO I DO !!!!!  I thought I was doing everything possible to show that and say that but I must be missing the mark .... he is actually angry with me for not being appreciative so any help here would be GREATLY appreciated    and if I need to do something else to show that let me know   

[masked_brown_guy]

you could you know bow-chicka-wow-wow.

[animikokala]

Depends on what you are already doing to show him that you appreciate him.  He could just be unappreciative of you.

For me, sometimes it's the little things that my Mark appreciates most, like bringing him a pillow when he's laying on the couch watching tv, or bringing him a drink while he's stuck on a frustrating multiple-hour conference call (on one of his days "off").  He's always so surprised and appreciative every time.  He's been letting me concentrate on school and working so hard for years, I like to do little things to make him happy when he's home.  And sometimes it's as simple as letting him cook whenever he wants, since he enjoys it but is usually exhausted when he comes home.

[clickers]

Ask him what he wants you to do. If you feel like you're already showing him attention, then find out exactly what HE needs for you to make him happy. People have different opinions and you'd be surprised to see why he's not feeling appreciated. He has to be willing to spell it out for you though, because since you're already doing your version, he needs to tell you his version. I hope you find the bliss you desire to keep the home fires burning.

[kqa]

He might be insecure, so ask him what you could do to show your appreciation for him.

[lorettahknox]

Men love to be admired for the things that they do, admire him. When you are together grab him in naughty places men like that. It makes them feel sexy. Talk dirty to him. Don't make up stuff but praise him for the good things he does. He is not a woman he will not respond to things that make women feel good. Men experience admiration as love and appreciation. Do not ballbust!!!!!!!! Women do that a lot, and men experience that like a knife in the chest. You cannot do that! It is as painful to them emotionally, as childbirth is to us physically. Your job as his woman is to make him feel like he's Tarzan, proud, confident and fearless. Do not nag!!!!!!!! If women only knew how much men hate that they would never open their mouths. Don't be nasty to him even when you are mad. Put your head on his chest and hold him. He will get the message. Trust him completely it will be hard at first but do it anyway. Put him first and he will put you first. Never expose any weakness he has and never throw any mistake he makes back in his face. Be completely his, men like that. Remember this you hold the key to your own happiness and his. Remember easy on that ego handle it with care. Good luck!

[tigerlilly01]

I always say THANK YOU when he does something nice but he seems to want me to say it over and over and over every day for the same things ... I am Thankful and I DO appreciate the fact that I don't have to work.  I do ask what do you want me to do but he just gets frustrated with me ....

[jeannia2]

I love  my hubby so much but he thinks that I don't appreciate him but I DO I DO I DO !!!!!  I thought I was doing everything possible to show that and say that but I must be missing the mark .... he is actually angry with me for not being appreciative so any help here would be GREATLY appreciated    and if I need to do something else to show that let me know   

I come to the point that whatever you do or say to him to show you love your spouse. He's is going to think otherwise. Why I have no idea.But even if he act like you don't love him, deep down inside of him he do. Some men just have a hard time saying I appreciate you. Do not mean he don't. It do hurt us when we don't here these thing said to us. But don;t weary he do appreciate you. I can tell by reading your statement you really and truely love him and he does to. Just keep doing what you're doing for him. God is please with you!!!

[queenofnines]

Why not surprise him with a gift he wants, but does not yet have?  That's what I did for my hubby the other day.  Don't save presents for birthdays/holidays/etc.!

[gingerbug56]

When he comes home i great  him with a kiss and ask him how his day was and have dinner ready for him after our shower i give him a massage

[jjhoney25]

I love  my hubby so much but he thinks that I don't appreciate him but I DO I DO I DO !!!!!  I thought I was doing everything possible to show that and say that but I must be missing the mark .... he is actually angry with me for not being appreciative so any help here would be GREATLY appreciated    and if I need to do something else to show that let me know   

:wave:WELLL WHAT I DID FOR MY MAN IS WHEN HE CAME HOME FROM WORK .. I HAD CANDLES ALL OVER THE HOUSE TO THE DOOR TO THE BATH THEN TO THE BED AND A TRAIL OF ROSE PETALS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CANDLES AND  ROSE PETALS ALL OVER THE BED ...THEN FROM THE DOOR TO THE BATH I TOOK HIS CLOTHES OFF AND WE GOT IN THE BUBBLE BATH WE WASHED EACH OTHER UP AND ....  GOT OUT AND TOOK IT TO THE BED AND .... THEN FELL ASLEEP!!!

[mardukblood2009]

Sounds like you two have alot of talking to do. Just try and talk things out and maybe you can get to the bottom of this problem.

[noirlupe]

Its the little things you do.  A clean house, warm meal, scratching their back, getting them a drink when you are already going that direction.  For my husband it is the little things I do not the words.

[CharmedPhoenix]

Ask him what he wants you to do. If you feel like you're already showing him attention, then find out exactly what HE needs for you to make him happy. People have different opinions and you'd be surprised to see why he's not feeling appreciated. He has to be willing to spell it out for you though, because since you're already doing your version, he needs to tell you his version. I hope you find the bliss you desire to keep the home fires burning.

BINGO!  This is exactly what I was thinking.  We can second guess other people 'til we die, but the only way to know what's actually on their mind is to ask.

For more professional advice you can read "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" by Dr John Gray.  Guess what he says ask too.