You’re always wrong.

[MichelleHW101]

What is it about fathers that they all have one thing in common: when you volunteer your time to help them with a project that is their responsibility no matter what you do you are always wrong?  I was helping my father put up a fence section between our pole and out neighbors fense.  He told me to shove my end of the fense section that I was holding between the gap of the neightbor’s fence and out pole.  I kept trying but the angle my father had the fence section at his end was to steep so there was no way I could get my end into the gap he wanted.  I told him that.  He read that as I didn’t know what he wanted so he puts his end down and walks over to my end and I walk to his.  I immediately shove his end closer to me to lessen the angle and he immediately gets the fence into the gap then looks at me like why couldn’t I do that in the first place.  He did the same thing when we were staining the patio furniture.  To save time I took one piece to stain and he took another.  He immediately looks at what I’m staining and says, “your doing it wrong.  Staining isn’t paining.”  The only piece he liked was the one piece I didn’t help him with.  I can’t go out on the patio anymore cuz I’ll just make me mad.  He does that one more time I’m not helping him with anything.

[tuyetmai]

What is it about fathers that they all have one thing in common: when you volunteer your time to help them with a project that is their responsibility no matter what you do you are always wrong?  I was helping my father put up a fence section between our pole and out neighbors fense.  He told me to shove my end of the fense section that I was holding between the gap of the neightbor’s fence and out pole.  I kept trying but the angle my father had the fence section at his end was to steep so there was no way I could get my end into the gap he wanted.  I told him that.  He read that as I didn’t know what he wanted so he puts his end down and walks over to my end and I walk to his.  I immediately shove his end closer to me to lessen the angle and he immediately gets the fence into the gap then looks at me like why couldn’t I do that in the first place.  He did the same thing when we were staining the patio furniture.  To save time I took one piece to stain and he took another.  He immediately looks at what I’m staining and says, “your doing it wrong.  Staining isn’t paining.”  The only piece he liked was the one piece I didn’t help him with.  I can’t go out on the patio anymore cuz I’ll just make me mad.  He does that one more time I’m not helping him with anything.

Not only father... I think it happen to everybody.  Some people never appreciate what you are doing for them.  So don't feel bad.  Just do what you are right now. 

[cloudsoup]

love his heart, my dad's been known to be the same way.
he can be a perfectionist and would rather do things
himself to avoid exactly what you're talking about.
i think he enjoys doing it himself and his "right" way,
so we all let him 

[samrhett2]

I have to laugh at this only because I can identify.  My dad is not as you describe, but my mom is.  Unfortunately I catch myself doing the same thing sometimes with my son.  I bet your dad grew up with a parent who treated him the same way because unfortunately we repeat the bad parenting that we had unless we recognize it and change it.

[samcleod]

Just release the frustration and continue to help your dad.  I would love to have all the memories and the opportunities to help my dad now, then to think of the frustration and refusal to help him when he is gone. 

[briannajeanxo]

my father is the same way, it drives me crazy!! doesnt matter if its dishes, vacuuming, writing, anything!! he does it!