Is it right??

[monasiers]

should a woman keep a child or children out of a fathers life be :dog:cause of his girlfriend? and should a man bring his girlfriend with him wen he goes to get his child or motherhouse?

[Huwee]

No...because my BM is doing it to me.She says she can't trust me to be around them because I would take them from her.Sorry to say which is true.I'm a father an like a mother I love my babies...when my oldest was born i was the "mother"....when my son came I was the "mother",there was no parties i went to alone,I babysat all the time.Then *bleep* got bad an we split on baby 3....but now my youngest don't even know her daddy.I'm never ran from my kids I run toward them...but my ROAD BLOCK be their Mother...an I just don't get it...I have NEVER HARMED MY BABIES,but her sisters can't say that *bleep* about my own kids.And I have the trust issue.I want to go to court but really not used to the "LAW" side of things...all I want is time with them as any mother would,it's just that I'm a father who is there...but blind to some.It hurts me as a man.Last time back in 07' I came got my daughter an kept her,because I have the right to my child as long as we not fighting though court.She had a problem with her baby not being in her site,How the F*** do you Think I Feel?!.......but life is hard.I'm still trying.

[Huwee]

an No never bring another chick to your BM(Baby's Momma house....you a fool or you just don't care.

[dhutchinson2010]

I am a Mother, and I agree totally : Never bring a Gf to your Baby mom house because it cause, conflict, hurt, and bitterness. However no it is not right for her to try to keep the child or children away because you have moved on and are in another relationship, but right now I couldn't say how I Would react to this situation cause my babies father hardly comes to visit. I too have a question though...... Why is it that even when a person has done you wrong, you still love them?  

[monasiers]

Huwee- im sorry about your situation and i agree 100% with you i feel if your a good father who actually want to be their fir your kids why should the mother get in the way of it? alot of females are out here hating that the father of their childs arent around to take care of theirs while some are being ignorant to the situation. i feel that some females use their kids as an excuse to get back at the fathers for their own emotional hurt and pain so they drag the kids into the middle of their situation witch is totally wrong. it sounds like your trying to be a good father to your children your a good man because alot of men dont want to stand up and take responcibilities and be a man for once. My advice would be if you love your kids so much and you really want to be a part of their life then take her to court and get your rights to custody bring everything to the light so you can be in your kids life they deserve someone like you from the sound of everything. i hope and pray that everything will work out for you 

[monasiers]

dhutchinson- i agree with you also i think if you have moved on to another mate it would be the wrong thing to do to bring them around, i think its ignorant if you do thsts just adding fuel to the fire and it really shows that you can careless about the other persons feeling.... and to answer your question love is very complicated and some people are fools when it comes to love you cant help who you love and you sure cant just turn all your emotions and feeling off all at once and call it a day. I just got out of a bad relationship things ended pretty badly to the point i thought we would NEVER speak again, but for some reason i still loved the hell outta that person its more of the special memorys you hold on to of what it use to be like how you would want it to be how tight your bond was sometime you just cant give it up and cant stop loving them even when you think you hate them the most!

[gaylasue]

It depends on the girlfriend.  There are some types of people I wouldn't want to be around my child.

[nickit]

No, it's selfish, need to think of the child

[Huwee]

Mona-Thanks and your right i will,I really needed that opinion thats why I answer'd your post...good luck to you an me both sister.Bless you boo.

[jaderbug01]

as a person who grew up with divorced parents, I know all too well about this

first of all I am very gratefull and glad that my father was apart of my life, even tho it was only every other weekend. My stepdad was a really mean guy, so every other weekend with my dad was my saving grace.

My dad DID have alot of girlfriends during the coarse of my childhood, and as a little girl I was always alittle jealous of them being with my Dad and taking my time from him. But I got over it, it didn't really affect me.

As long as she isn't doing anything bad to or around your children, I don't see a problem with it. He has every right to be apart of his children's lives, while having a life of his own as well

[Annella]

Life is life and people do move on to other partners. I counsel people to have a good "breathing period" after a divorce. Take time to get your bearings and get things good and untangled before introducing someone else in your life. If there are children involved then take it slow even more on finding someone else. Everyone has to adjust and children need it double.

It's not good to bring around a new significant other until you know for sure that person is going to be a major part of your future.  If you have someone new each time you see your child/children, it's confusing and unstable to them.  And mothers that bring home different men here and there are just asking for trouble, and messing up their kids heads. There is a right time to introduce another person in your life. If the kids are old enough, talk with them about it first. Believe me, they understand more than you think they do.

If the marriage has ended because of infidelity, and the unfaithful one has the one they cheated with around, that is like pouring salt in the wounds. Anybody who would "flaunt" the other woman or man in front of the other is clearly spiteful, and if you do it where your children see it? shameful!