Want this brokenheart to go away

[Finally360]

How do you let someone go that you have loved for eight years and they wont love you back?

[home_teachin]

You just have to put time and distance between you so you can get over it. Spend a lot of time with friends and try to meet new people.

[syncflame]

yes there always more fish in the sea they wont love you tell them its their lost and go find someone who will treat you better

[kapeh12]

One thing I found is telling myself that even though I think that person is perfect now, the fact that it didn't work out means there's someone even better out there for me.  And it may have been a few months, or a couple years - but I always end up meeting someone who is "better" in my eyes that the previous love.  If that one doesn't work out, then I keep my eye out for the next.

I'm actually not in any relationship at the moment...and am very happy.  Another thing to make peace is to try to fall in love with yourself again.  Be happy being on your own and enjoying life on your terms.  Most of my friends that chose to do that wound up finding their special person (that old saying, you find them when you are not looking).

[kangagirl1321]

well for me time was crucial. and finding a new person to have in ur life always helps too. sometimes u love the next person more then u ever did the first so hang in there. i know it hurts like hell. i've been there myself but dont do nething stupid to urself. trust me trust me trust me. hang out and laugh with ur friends more.. drink(if ur a happy drunk) and dont worry about that person. they are not worth it.

[lannl]

Time usually helps heal the wounds. Keeping busy on making something else happen. Meeting other people. Its the hardest thing in the world that is for sure

[mrisha]

It takes time, patience and getting yourself involved in other activities to keep from obsessing about the 8 years you had invested in this person.  So stop thinking about the past and move on with your life.

[weeeeone6804]

i would have to tell you that you need to occupie your self with being around your good friends. Your friends will always help you get through it if they are true friends.

[makedoughonline]

Time and getting busy will surely do.
You need to replace the "activity of love" with something new that you enjoy doing.
But before you make these changes, you need to admit that you make a mistake by choosing the wrong person to love at the first place. Once you realize it's not the fact that the person you love didn't love you in return hurts you. What hurts you is the fact that you can't win the love from the person you love.

[Finally360]

Thank you all and everything you all said I will try my best to comply.  I have a beautiful daughter from this relationship and she is 7 now so its not like he and I really need to conversate about a lot.  She is able to talk for herself.  We are 2 states apart from each other. The crazy thing is he knows how I feel and I believe he plays on that.  I have made up in mind this year though that I have to let this go.  I have let him control me too long even though we are far apart. I'm tired of crying, I'm tired of false hope, I'm tired of still hanging on to the hurt of the past which keeps me from moving forward.

I just want to love and be loved again but until then, I know like one of you said, I have to learn to love myself and focus on being a whole mother to my daughter.  It's not easy but with great advice from people like you all and prayer and involving myself in other activities, what seems like will never end will end. I will get completely over him and I will not allow my self to keep hurting over this spilled milk who did not recognize a prize. 

Thank you all again.

[Cuppycake]

How do you let someone go that you have loved for eight years and they wont love you back?

You need a new philosophy! Surround yourself with people that charge your batteries NOT drain them! Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative !

[Finally360]

luv it cuppy cake...i gotta make that my fb stat...lol

[masked_brown_guy]

there there, there there try doing a cart wheel. that cheers me up sometimes.

[cubarican210]

Don't worry in a few months you'll find someone better and then in a few years you'll look back and say Oh my God I was crying over that person. That person looks ugly to me now. What the hell was I thinking? At least that's how I felt when I got my heart broken by someone I really loved.

[Finally360]

wow my mom just said that earlier about looking back and then thinking what in the world was I thinking?  I am already feeling a little freedom by taking the first step in recognizing I was played, used and he just doesnt want me.  He still says he loves me but yet he lives with another woman now.  But he is starting to look ugly to me and not even worth it these last few days.  I am more upset at myself over the years I have been wasting waiting and crying over him...ughhh.  Even when I tried to move on I felt trapped.  But I cant change the past.