help boyfriend is jealous of my male best friend!

[ladycasshmere]

  He has been my best friend since 2001.My boyfriend was always cool with it until lately.He's been acting super jealous of us and he is right there to see that nothing is going on.We are just friends. I dont wanna have to choose between the two. What should I do?

[dreamyxo]

Sometimes in a relationship you do have to choose.  I had a best friend who was male for 13 years.  We considered each other like brother and sister.  I had two boyfriends during the time he was my best friend and neither of them had a problem with him being my best friend.  I knew my best friend before I met my boyfriends.  At one point he had a girlfriend himself and we all went out together on a few occasions.  When I was in the relationships I didn't hang out with my best friend as much as I did when I wasn't in a relationship.

Ask your boyfriend what his problem is and get to the bottom of why he is feeling the way he is.  He may have seemed cool with it before but he might have had problems with it in the beginning.  What changed now?

[g0ku4life]

Maybe he thinks you aren't leaving enough time for him, talk it out.

[inluvwitmm]

You definitely need to have an honest talk with him. Communication is key! I have a really good male friend but I don't talk to him much...when we do, it's like we picked up from last time. I always disclose with my boyfriend that I talked to this friend - I just mention that I talked to my friend and tell him some of what we talked about...it's like just finding a way to include my boyfriend.

Maybe your boyfriend is starting to suspect that your friend likes you as more than a friend. That can make people feel threatened. Best of luck to you!

[noelea]

  you will have to make a choice it is sad. if it is a not jealous boyfriend that you want then you have to stay single. or look for a new boyfriend.and sometimes if you let go of your friends you will have to give up more things so before you let that best friend go make sure that is all your boyfriend wants. and make sure that is the game you want to choose.you to will get mad and want certin things in return no guys night out for him this is how it starts and either you both get used to it or you both will be unhappy. is it what you realy want???

[fredlee1]

I think men are like babies sometimes.. They want to have all of your attention. Since you are in a relationship with your boyfriend, you want to hear him out, as to why the change of attitude with your male friend. Question? are you giving him reason to be jealous,? are you spending to much time with your male friend then him? It seems to me you need to kinda balance things out. Something had to have happened in his thought process for that change of attitude. I think if you sit down with him and talk things out you will have a better understanding about his feelings.
Good Luck.

[Valerie1979]

definately talk it out-
how would you feel if he had a girl that was a friend that he talked to and things (imagine whatever you do with your best male friend... would you be jealous if it was him w/ a girl???)