who do i go to now

[sharonohrenberg]

Hi all. so i was on here looking over the offers and i thought what the heck...Its been a horrible past 2 days and i dont know who to ask so i'll ask a bunch of strangers what i should do.
Heres the run down: a bunch of kids were picking on each other on the bus. A 14 year old boy called my 13yr old daughter fat, My 11 year old daughter took his sunglasses and in response he punched her in the face and she blacked out for a second.
i thought that it was made into something bigger than it was because her face barely had a mark on it but we did go to the boys house and he tried to get smart with me in front of his dad and his dad said nothing but i put a stop to that quickly.
 in the end he said sorry and his dad said he would take care of it. Today i get a call from the police officer at the school because they had heard about it and watched the video and wanted to make sure she was ok and wanted to know if i wanted to press assault charges. The officer said that when he and the principal saw that boy hit my girl they were shocked and she did "go out" for a sec.
They kicked the boy off the bus and my daughter got called to her principals office(shes younger so shes in a different school) and the assistant prin. told her that if she hadnt taken the glasses off the boys face she wouldnt have gotten punched in the face!!
This same school has also told her that if she wasnt wearing such tight pants she wouldnt get smacked on the rump by a boy because she gave him the wrong idea with what she was wearing...an outfit like this one: Shes ELEVEN!

Who in the world do i go to when its the principal and the assistant principal thats telling my daughter that a boy can man handle her because she wore the wrong clothes or he can Punch Her in The FACE because she made him mad???  There has got to be someone on the totem pole that would do something. the school board is out of the question. i have tried them. any teachers or administrators or parents or anyone out there have any ideas for me?

Hows that for off topic??

[dreamyxo]

Then try the school board again and keep trying until you get satisfaction.  Go to to superintendent.  Go to the local news media. 

[GoGoKokiGo]

Then try the school board again and keep trying until you get satisfaction.  Go to to superintendent.  Go to the local news media.  

Definitely agree. You have to keep trying till you're heard. Just wondering, is the school your daughter is going to located in the 1850's? When was it okay to sexually harass a child because of what she was wearing? I'm sure she was well in the school's dress code, so why is she getting reprimanded? I would take this much further, they're allowing your daughter to get sexually harassed and doing nothing about it.

Saying it was your daughter's fault because she took his glasses!!!?? Does this also mean that if someone from your daughter's school takes something from her it's alright for her to use violence on them? I have a feeling if your daughter retaliates they're going to find a way to say it's her fault. I'd keep calling everyone in that school till I was satisfied. You have to go "mama bear" on their asses. They won't listen otherwise. My mom used to do the same for me and my brother's. You can do it!

I googled this, it looks helpful. Hopefully it is.
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Schoolslearninganddevelopment/YourChildsWelfareAtSchool/DG_4016106
It says you should ask for the school's complaint procedure, I'm pretty sure once they see you're willing to take this further it will shake them up a bit.
GO GET THEM!

[lynnc35]

The superintendant, the School Board, and finally the city council, if it comes to the worse, go to further up. You can contact your senators and representatives with this, which I so strongly urge you do, the principal and vice, needs to be removed, I recommend you start taking this to other mothers and start meeting to get these two removed. Do not stop until you do, you do not have to put up with this, further more, I would strongly think about a sexual harassment charge on the one who said, that your daughter should not wear so tight pants and she wouldn't get smacked. Definitely push this, that is sexual harassment toward your daughter, wrong, wrong, and I mean this is wrong, and you do not have to stand by and take this kind of immoral behavior.

[muush88]

A lawyer and a lawsuit would get thier attention real fast

[mc1962]

If you still can not get any action by the school board then I would suggest that you contact your closest TV station to have this brought into the spotlight, it is after all a matter of public record and the video will be brought into light, most tv stations have a community or consumer on your side and they LOVE stories like this, and here in the San Diego/Los angeles area we see stories about this stuff all the time.  The end result is this, boys should NEVER HIT A GIRL BECAUSE IF IT IS NOT NIPPED IN THE BUD EARLY THEN IN TIME IT WILL GET WORSE. Hope this helps you.

[FuzzyCottonsocks]

Talk to a lawyer and go to the media. 

[JessieKateRose]

Go to the school board. If the problem isn't fixed, go to the police. Then the media. That is completely unacceptable, there is no way any 11 year old girl is asking for that, and your sunglasses being taken is no excuse for punching anyone in the face, especially a child who is younger than you.

[pattypingle]

Keep at it, there is alot of bullying going on in schools and everyone needs to push for more safety at school and buses.  You always hear about kids killing themselves because of bullying.  Get parents to ban together and push for changes.

[tzs]

No administrator at your daughters school should speak to her that way, definitely go to the media and nail those bastards!!!!

Good luck!!!!

[sharonohrenberg]

Well, i talked to my daughter about it and we thought long and hard about it and we decided that we would indeed press charges like the officer at the boys school suggested. when i called the next day to tell him out decision he told me that was fine but that after talking to his supervisors they told him that my daughter will more than likely get in trouble as well. If it goes to court they think the judge will say that since my daughter took this boys sunglasses he felt "threatened" and punched her for his own safety. 

I just wanted to cry....are you KIDDING me? a boy a FOOT taller and 2 years older felt threatened so he KNOCKED my ELEVEN year old daughter out and thats ok? this is the law? Wow.

[tzs]

If the administration starts trouble with you, definitely go to the media, because they probably don't want to be all over the news- and they should be!!!!
good luck again!!!

[trujillo33]

I think you should try to talk to the admistratives again and if it doesnt work get a lawyer....